How to Use a Strap On: A Comprehensive Guide

Backstrap play can bring new excitement to a couple’s sexual relationship, introducing elements of role reversal, fetish fantasies and enhanced intimacy. Knowing how to properly use strap-ons can ensure a pleasurable and safe sexual experience for all participants.

What is a strap on?

A strap-on is a wearable dildo, usually attached via a harness or vaginal plug, that is used during intercourse. To meet the preferences and needs of different users, strap-on dildos come in a variety of forms, including strapless, hollow, curved and removable. They can be used for masturbation, simulated oral sex, vaginal penetration and anal penetration, and are suitable for partners of any gender identity or sexual orientation to use together. Strap-on dildos can stimulate the cervix and G-spot in the vagina, or the prostate gland in the male reproductive system, resulting in intense pleasure and orgasm.

Types of strap on

The following are the most common types of strap-on masturbators, each designed for different techniques and sensations:

Panty Style

These strap-on masturbators feature a pair of panty straps instead of straps, attached to a pair of boxer briefs. They are designed to drastically increase comfort and avoid chafing and constant adjustments.

CURVED

These dildos have a slight upward curve that specifically targets the g-spot for vulvar users and the p-spot (prostate) for penile users.

DOUBLE

Double sling toys, or double dildos, feature two dildos that can be inserted into both the wearer and recipient to provide stimulation at the same time, and are ideal for vulva-to-vulva or vulva-to-anal play.

Hollow

Hollow dildos are designed to be inserted into the penis by the penis owner and can be used to prolong sex or increase penis thickness, useful for men with erectile dysfunction.

Hook-on

Designed for anal penetration, these strap-ons usually have a thin, curved dildo at the head of the penis, making them more comfortable and easier to maneuver during anal sex.

Removable

These harnesses use metal or plastic O-rings to make it easy to swap out different dildos and fit any dildo with a flat base.

Strapless

These feature a separate dildo with a vaginal plug for double penetration (vaginal and anal) for two vulva owners and can also be used in bondage play.

Neutral

Adjustable harnesses commonly feature a crotchless design that fits over the legs and waist, and can be used by owners of both penises and vulvas with great comfort.

Vibration

This harness combines the features of a vibrator and a dildo to achieve intense stimulation by controlling the intensity of vibration of the dildo shaft via a remote control.

Choose the Right Strap On for You

There are many different types of carrier harnesses, but they are not suitable for everyone. Choosing the right harness can take some time, so here’s a brief guide to the important factors you need to consider:

Type of harness: Harnesses come in a variety of styles, including thongs, briefs and harnesses with adjustable straps. Choose one that suits you and is comfortable and secure.

Dildo types: Dildos come in different sizes, shapes and materials. It’s important to consider which one will be comfortable and pleasurable for both partners.

Additional features: Some strap-on dildos come with vibrators or other special features that can enhance sexual pleasure.

How to Use a Strap On?

Preparation

COMMUNICATION: Have a frank discussion with your partner about what you want to explore and any boundaries or safe language.

Lubricate: Use the right amount of lubricant, especially during anal sex.

Warm up: Spend some time on foreplay to make sure both partners are relaxed and aroused.

Wearing the harness

Adjust fit: Make sure the harness fits snugly around the hips or waist. It should not be too tight or too loose.

Attach the dildo: Attach the dildo to the o-ring or other attachment point. Make sure it is securely in place.

COMFORT CHECK: Move around and get used to it until it feels secure and comfortable.

Insertion techniques

Start slowly: Begin with gentle, shallow penetration. Watch your partner’s reaction and adjust accordingly.

Change positions: Keep experimenting with different positions to find what feels best for you.

Communicate: Keep communicating openly with your partner to make sure you are both comfortable and enjoying the experience.

Use alone

Seatbelt Alternative: Use a furniture-mounted seatbelt or foot harness for solo play.

Positioning: Find a comfortable position where you can control the angle and depth of penetration.

Care and cleaning

Seat belt care

Fabric seat belts: Most toys are machine washable. See manufacturer’s instructions for specific instructions.

Leather seat belts: Clean with a damp cloth and specialized leather cleaner. Regular maintenance will keep the leather supple and prolong its use.

Latex Harnesses: Rinse with warm water and mild soap. Dry thoroughly and apply latex polish to maintain elasticity.

Dildo care

Silicone, glass and stainless steel: Wash with soap and lukewarm water, if non-vibrating, boiling is recommended for complete sterilization.

Vibrating dildos: Wipe clean with a damp cloth to avoid submerging the electrical components.

Storage

Clean and dry: Always clean the toy thoroughly after use and ensure it is completely dry before storing.

SEPARATE STORAGE: Store each toy in its own special bag or container to avoid material degradation and to keep it dust free.

Conclusion

Using strap-on sex equipment is a great way to create a deeper connection with your partner, increase intimacy, spice up your relationship and explore new areas of pleasure together. The key is to choose the right strap-on sex toy, maintain open communication with your partner, keep it clean before and after use, and use plenty of lubricant during use. Focus on pleasure rather than performance for both partners and enjoy the journey of discovery together.

Straps offer endless possibilities for experimentation and enjoyment. Listen to your body and your partner’s true voice and let go of any pressure. Remember, the ultimate goal is to have fun and create a special and fulfilling sexual experience for both of you.